selfie, eye contact, consumerism
RIP poor boy who invited me to go to C&A with him ("ah that's nice, I also want to take a quick look...")
findings thread? findings thread!! look at this it's been forever since I find one that fits my huge head, plus it's pink!!!! this one's going into the kink outfit for pride for sure
selfie, bra photo, transfem bra idea
nice to see my hypothesis panned out:
if you have low-volume / conical breasts,
and a wide band size,
and your band is due to bone not soft tissue,
and you want to look estrogen-typical,
then use a half-cup push-up with a cup size that fits tight,
and use one or more bra extenders to make the band comfortable.
(btw this is literally the exact opposite of the abrathatfits approach (which is ideal if you have lots of boob mass that you want to support on a band size of soft tissue)).
it seems that my waist size is quite variable – I keep making new holes on belts, only for them not to be in the right place next time. so I really appreciated it when I found this belt that is 1) white 2) fem 3) punched all around.
finally can wear shorts at my actual waist rather than hips! this has lots of, potential
selfie, suggestive, eye contact
this one's fun: it's a summer top, but even thought it's so small, it's a thick and soft fabric resembling a very soft merino. it feels very good to slide a hand over, hint hint (^.~)-*
it also has a delightful amount of sheer but I'm not sure I like how my reduced breasts look in it, might use with a bra anyway not for decency but for shape
selfie, suggestive, implied kink, fat/body weight/image discussion
I remember when I started doing fashion, reading that trans girls shouldn't wear cap sleeves like this cos it draws attention to our shoulders. turns out I quite like having large shoulders.
the tummy is more of a challenge for me. all sorts of issues get into it—weight, of course, but also gender, cos all my fat is belly and I wish I had more tight, arm, chest, boob etc. fat; and then age – old women like me aren't allowed to use crop tops.
I tied this up higher than the factory default to expose more tummy and work on my body positivity, then tied up the cord in a lover's knot (I'm advertising for a very specific kind of girl here). then I was left with a lot of dangling cord, and on a whim decided to try a new kind of braid weave to use it up.
it was a bit of a challenge cos dangling cords are seen upside-down compared to the... usual context... where you do stuff like this, plus it was meant for one rope not two, but trying to solve the puzzle made me understand what makes it tick.
completely lost track of time on this, I've come to a point where just the act of starting to do wraps and knots puts me in this meditative, unusually calm state of concentration.
@jenalyze I never noticed? showing armpit isn't an issue for me, I use sleeveless all the time anyway.
shoulder width is a bit more of an issue cos it's affected by testosterone and thus codes masc. I learned all these fashion techniques to offset the impression of wide shoulders, then unlearned all the rules as I convinced myself that wide-shouldered girls are good actually
@elilla I have friend who thinks the exact same way!
She doesn't really use any social media outside of discord though.
Personal server for trans moms <3